I thought that being worried about a girl not being a virgin was something from the old days. I am 68 and was never concerned about it. It is a little different today because of sexually transmitted infections, but if you're worried about that, get checked by a doctor. As women grow older, the virgins disappear. Good advice from Alice.

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To the reader:

When I had sex for the first time, I was shocked. There was no pain. Not whatsoever. I felt like I was cheated out of part of my first time experience, I felt like all this time I had been getting myself ready for pain and blood, and then felt nothing. Turns out my hymen had already broken and I'm relatively wide. I felt so cheated and upset, and I can only imagine if the man I trusted and loved and had shared this experience with had accused me of not being honest with him when I had no idea what was going on with my own body. Just because a girls body doesn't behave the way society says it should does NOT mean its weird or that she's lying. Yes, some women lie (so do some men), but if you love someone and she loves you enough to trust you with her first time having sex, you should be able to trust that she is telling you the truth.