Dear exhibitionist,

I would like to respond about your comment saying that the girls/women "seem" to like watching you expose themselves b/c they do not get up to leave. It may be that they are so surprised and offended that they are in a temporary state of shock, and cannot do anything to avert their eyes. This is a common thing — when a person is completely shocked and disgusted, he/she feels "frozen". This happened to me once, in a bus. A man exposed himself to me and I wanted to step on his foot or scream "harassment!" or just stop looking, but I couldn't. I couldn't move my eyes, couldn't open my mouth, etc. And then he got off at his stop, and I was still standing there. Please do not think that just because a girl/woman doesn't say something, she likes it. I find it hard that so many girls/women would like this act, as it is degrading to the female gender. If a man groped a women's breast, and she didn't do anything but stayed still, does this mean she likes it? Most likely, she feels too violated to respond. The same applies in your situation. Please don't think I was being rude. I just wanted to clear things up. It's very important to understand that some girls/women will end up feeling very VIOLATED by what you did to them, and it can have very negative consequences to their emotional and mental health. I have been there.

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Dear Alice,

In the USA the messages are so completely mixed that young people are at a loss to know what is socially acceptable. Britney and Paris can do expose themselves, but if you're a male you'll end up in jail. My opinion is that any genital exposure should be forbidden in public. That would not apply to breasts — but pretty girls who expose their genitals would be treated the same as ugly guys.