Some partners may be enjoying the moment so much that they don't feel like talking or making any noises. Why does silence automatically send the signal of disapproval? Maybe we like to enjoy our orgasms in silence to experience all of the other sensations that are rippling through our bodies. Pressuring us to verbalize our experience makes us feel phony and nervous. If you are doing your job "right," do you constantly need comments from the peanut gallery to validate your performance? RELAX. Listen to your body instead of the well rehearsed bad porn dialog. Try it, you just might like it!

Silent Lover

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To the reader:

From personal experience, I don't think that this is uncommon. I've noticed that men tend to be quieter while women tend to be more vocal. One way you can tell if he is enjoying it is to get cues from his facial expressions. Of course the main cue is from his penis's physiological response.

I know it may seem embarassing at first, but talking about how it feels during sex may be helpful. Open communication is important so that both partners feel comfortable and satisfied.