Dear Clueless and Concerned,

Don't get me wrong, but are you getting the diagnosis or him? You might try coaxing more info from him to see if there is a reason behind it all. Sometimes it's a lack of coping skills combined with life's hits/misses. In my experience, walk a mile in his boots before you send him off to intervention, then sit with him awhile. If he has trust and support, you may find a side of him that you weren't aware of. Good luck and I hope you and your man find some nirvana. Cheers.