I had expressed my desire for my wife of several years that I really wanted her to swallow my cum, instead of spitting it out in the sink, interrupting our session.

She came back with an alternative. She asked, how about after you come in my mouth, I swallow what I can, but the rest I share with you in kissing, and/or allowing it to flow back out of my mouth on your face and chest. I must admit, I was a little reluctant. She asked, why will you ask of me what you aren’t willing to do, i.e., taste your own sperm. She says, "I kiss you after you eat me out as your face is dripping with my fluids — why won’t you at least try the same?"

Then I thought of the many times I had eaten her out after we had sex and I had shot a good-sized load into her vagina. The taste was there but not unpleasant. Maybe even a little desirable. It was as if I had claimed my ownership of her.

Since this revelation, we have shared some of the greatest sex of our relationship.

And, by the way, she swallows without hesitation now.

Believe it or not, I sometimes wish she wouldn't.

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Dear Alice,

If you accept your girlfriend for what she's willing to do and don't pressure her, she will feel more intimate with you and your sexual life and relationship could thrive. Or you could keep asking her to do something she doesn't want to do, and she will become more distant and your relationship will suffer. Giving up swallowing for a thriving relationship of understanding sounds like a good trade-off to me.