Reading Torn Between's dilemma helped me understand the lame excuse my bf gave me when i asked him why he was acting weird after i was away for two weeks. He used words such as "not sure," "one minute it's black, one minute it's white," and "i'm not in love anymore" ? words which tore me up inside right away, trying to actually understand what i did wrong. I was really hurt because six years ago, my first bf said something similar when he wanted to actually end things. I can't believe six years later, although I thought I had learned my lesson by now, it happened again! Guys should actually be more honest, even though the truth hurts sometimes. It makes the situation less painful and with closure, easier to move on.