I came across this article when browsing the net for women with the same condition during their pregnancy as me and it instantly hit a cord. I suffer with the exact same problems. At 8 weeks, I started suffering with unbearable vomiting and after being told over and over that it would go away, I give up on that idea now. I'm now 28 weeks and still feel nausea, and vomit more regularly than is good for me. I guess what has become easier is my expectancy of it and knowing it will only last the duration of the pregnancy, which isn't that long now. I understand what this other woman is going through and how tough it is to work full time and suffer this way. I, too, have taken sick leave to have time on a drip in a hospital and I really feel for her.

However, if I were to give up work, the laws in England mean that I will be provided for on a very basic rate, but at least I have that. I'm very excited about having my first baby and the thought of that keeps me struggling on. Sometimes I wake up in the morning and I don't want to do anything but lie in bed and cry because of how ill and run down I feel, but when my partner comes home with little gifts for our baby, I somehow snap out of it and make myself do things. I hope this person who suffers the same does not give up hope. She needs to believe that it is all worth it and it won't be forever. At the end of it all, she will have the most responsible and important job in the world. This is just part of the fight to get that job. I wish her all the luck and willpower in the world.

hazel

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Alice,

Desperate, I feel for you, and I more than understand. I am going on 11 weeks, and I still throw up about 4 times a day. I feel sick all day and eat "in the moment," meaning I never know what's going to stay down 'til I try. I am emotionally drained and a bit depressed myself. I have not been able to take any prenatal vitamins because I throw them up as well. This is my second child, and I was sick the whole time with my first. I pray that this will end by the 12 or 13th week. I have also been to the hospital for dehydration, and it was not pleasant.

I am so sorry you feel the way you do. I know all too well the feeling of not wanting to go through with it, but my first son was so healthy and perfect, it was worth it. I just hope this new baby is the same. Try and stay strong. I know it's hard, I feel the same way.

— Hopeful

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Dear Desperate,

I too was very sick, and I tried all the methods you did. I was sick for the full 9 months and hospitalized several times. I had to have a PIC line put in (permanent IV), and I was put on every medicine to help, but nothing worked. I even had Home Health Care coming 3x a week. I just knew I was not going to make the choice I did before.

I hope it is not too late, and I hope you made a different decision to follow through with the pregnancy — it is so worth it. This was my 2nd pregnancy. During my 1st, I was just as sick, and at 8 weeks I decided to make the choice and end the pregnancy. I regret this every day of my life. I would never do it again! Look up "abortion pictures" and see what that baby goes through. It will make you change your mind. I now have a 10-month-old little boy, and he is a miracle. And, get this... I want another one!

I hope this will make it to you!

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Hello,
Morning sickness is very difficult to deal with. I have a 2 year old and I am 7 weeks pregnant with my second. I had a horrible first pregnancy. I felt like curling up into a ball and dying. My morning sickness lasted up until I was about 8 months pregnant. I missed a lot of work, but, had a very understanding employer. Like you I felt like terminating the pregnancy on many occasions. However, I am sure glad I didn't. My son is everything to me. He has brought me so much happiness and joy and I could not ever imagine have terminated the pregnancy now. I said that I would not go through it again, but, here I am 7 weeks pregnant — very nauseated and vomiting. I try to stay positive that I will start to feel better around 11 weeks. Hang in there. I know it can be tough, but, it will be worth it when you hold that little person you helped to create. All the best!!!

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Dear Desperate,

I understand what you are going through. I too suffered with major nausea with my first pregnany and I am now pregnant for the second time and going through it again. All I can say is that it will pass and believe me when you hold that baby in your arms you will say it was worth it all. So I just wanted to encourage you not to give up! You can do it. Also maybe you can talk to your doctor about medicication that is available to help you through this. My doctor prescribed me some drops to take before I ate. I did help although it didn't totally cure it. Well I hope my letter has been of some help. I know the desperation you feel and how miserable it is but it is worth it. There is nothing like being a mom. When my husband and I look at our son we say how did we ever live life without him! It will change your life forever but in a good way! Don't give up, you have almost reached the point where all this will change!