To the guy who wrote this and other guys out there, I totally feel for your girlfriend. I totally agree with Alice. Just because she won`t go down on you has nothing to do with her love or attraction for you. Think about it, eighteen year old girls are very vulnerable and unsure of themselves. I know I am. She is showing that she is thinking by deciding not to do certain things and not giving in to societal pressures and I commend her on that. Also, you need to consider, people have values and morals. Maybe she wants to be a virgin until marriage and to her that includes not seeing or touching a penis. You should respect her for who she is and if one day she wants to go further with you. Until then, just continue doing what you do on your own without pressuring her. And if you really need to "get off," I suggest looking at your favorite porn.

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Hi Alice,

If the girlfriend is still not mature enough to see her boyfriend's penis, he is fighting a losing battle. He should not pressure her, but he should realize that his sexual needs will not be met by his girlfriend for awhile, if ever, even though her needs are being met. He should stop going down on her at once until she is interested. Sex is an important part of a romantic relationship and if one partner wants and the other thinks it is gross except when she gets hers, it may be time to move on and find someone more compatible.