I just read the article on difficulty maintaining eye contact. I also have difficulty maintaining eye contact.

Thank you for this informative article!!!

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Dear Alice,

I just wanted to let the writer know that he/she is not alone. I have been suffering with the same problem for years. When I am talking to anyone, I'm afraid of staring too much because I do not want to make the person uncomfortable, and I also worry about not making enough eye contact because I might look disinterested. It's terrible to worry about because you can never fully enjoy conversations with people or really feel like you are connecting. I have been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder in the past so this may be a symptom of that.

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alice,

i, too, am facing the problem. tried a thousand techniques but of new use. here the intention comes into the picture. it seems like others feel our intentions are bad.

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Dear Alice,

I agree with the second response. I always get scared of making the person feel uncomfortable if I stare for too long, and so I end up not making eye contact very much, which I guess is even worse. I'm trying to be conscious of it every time I engage in conversation and force myself to make much more eye contact. I tend to find that confident speakers have no problem with prolonged eye contact, no matter how long I stare at them.

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Hey there!

I find that I too have that problem. However, I have come up with a solution for myself. I find that keeping constant eye contact with someone is very hard to do. So the best thing is for me to watch their mouth as they are speaking, or look at them, but look a little bit over their shoulder. I am a relatively shy person but come in contact with many people everyday. Hope this helps.

Bye!

— Can't make eye contact

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Dear Alice,

Hi, I also have this problem and I often get accused of lying because I look away (even when I am telling the truth.) So I find it helpful since I make hand gestures a lot when I speak to look at my own hands and focus on what I am saying rather than appearing uncomfortable in front of the person I am talking to.