Forget about the jar of pebbles. What would you think if your good male friend got YOU a jar of pebbles? Probably something like "what the hell am I supposed to do with this jar of pebbles? What sort of friend can't think of anything more individual and original to get me than a freakin' jar of pebbles?" How about a nice bottle of quality alcohol/wine (if he drinks), nice cigars (if he's a connoisseur), a gift certificate for a Swedish massage (who wouldn't love a Swedish massage), an outing to a strip club courtesy of your credit card (if he's into that sort of thing)? Think about your friendship and what makes your buddy happy... I think that you're in a much better position to answer this question than Alice is. And whatever you do, make sure your gift isn't clichéd and comes from the heart. And no jars of pebbles.

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Alice,

I am female and my 3 closest friends are all male and in there early 20's I have found buying something cheap and making it personal brings a smile to their faces. For example, getting an item they regually use (something they use at work, school or in there spare time) and getting a personal message on it either engraved or just scribbled on with marker. They also seem to love toys such as Mr. Potato Heads etc. and small instruments like ukuleles, recorders and tambourines.