Responding to feeling suicidal... help!:

There's always someone there to tell; you just have to be able to reach out to them. I felt the same, till my family found out, and in no time, all my friends did, too. I thought it was the end of the world, that they were gonna abandon me, think I was crazy, but everyone has been great, and been there for me, even now, when I just want them all to piss off!

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Dear Alice,

I would like to comment on Alice's answer to Feeling suicidal... Help! [Classic Alice!]. That person could have been me and I want to encourage anyone feeling suicidal to call the hotlines recommended by Alice or any suicide hotline you have access to. I've used these hotlines and they DO help — the people who answer will not judge you, they will listen to you. They may not be able to solve your problems, but they CAN get you through the night and they can recommend ways for you to find long-term help. Please, when you feel hopeless, just call those numbers. You will thank yourself some day.

—Been there and knows

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Dear Alice,

I am responding to Feeling Depressed and Suicidal. Hi, I am eighteen-years-old and I know how you feel being depressed and suicidal. I was there for, like, two years. I know sometimes you feel as if no one is there and no one cares, but there is someone. Do you have an old friend who you can trust?? If not, write a letter, not to anyone special, and write how you feel, then put it in an envelope and rip it up. I saw my best friend try to kill herself. All I can say is talk to someone, even if they don't understand... Talk... It will help you in one way or another... Good Luck and I hope you are feeling better!!

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Dear Alice,

My brother committed suicide. He will no longer see what tommorrow brings. Tommorrows are always different. Some are better, some are worse, but one thing for sure, they are always differnt. He will miss seeing his own children, a wife that was meant for him (who is out there somewhere), a great snowboard run, a new song from his favorite group. A chance to see the future. Death cheats you out of making things better.

It destroys those you care about forever for they never get over it. But it also destroys all that awaits you. Give life a chance, make the world a better place with your life. If you do not want to live for yourself, give your time to helping someone who needs it.

This is from someone who lives with pain each day over the loss of her brother but lives life knowing tomorrow has more to offer then sadness.

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Alice,

RE: Feeling suicidal...HELP!

I have been feeling low for years. Suicidal thoughts put me down every day. It's so nice to know I'm not alone!!! Just remember to GET HELP from a counselor and tell people about it! Your parents NEED TO KNOW! That's why I am so much better now, in fact, I would be dead if I hadn't told anyone!! Thanks!

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Dear Dazed,

I know the feeling....I've been in your shoes before. The thing that you probably don't realize is that there are people that care.....They just have EXTREMELY weird ways of showing it! I tried to kill myself one day and failed miserably, But when people found out about it (particularly my boyfriend) everyone was more than welcome to try to do everything they could to try and help me!!!!!

I've been clean now for about 6 months and no longer have those feelings of aloneness or wanting to die. Granted, me and the guy are no longer together, we still stay close and talk whenever the other isn't feeling well! So you just have to find someone you can trust and see if you can confide your problems in them!!

I really hope I've helped some! Please try my option, 'cause that's all it was, was a possibility that you could try if you wanted to!!

Be safe and good luck,
Been There

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Alice,

Eleven years ago, I had pervasive, dark, and persistent thoughts of suicide. I had even gone so far as to make a plan and to purchase the things I would need to end my life. It is a horrible feeling and a terrible way to live, but reaching out proves that at some level, you do want to live.

There are people you can talk to. There was no way I wanted my family, or anyone I knew, to find out how I was feeling — so I called one of the helplines. I spoke with someone who was kind, non-judgmental, and interested only in helping me make it through this awful time in my life. Please call someone — you don't have to suffer silently, and you don't have to go through this alone.

From someone who was there — I may still struggle, but I'm glad I chose to live.