dear HELP!

I can empathize with what you're going through 210 percent. I, too, have had people labeling me my whole life. When people say things about you/call you names, in the back of your mind you start to believe them. Right? So when I was going through puberty I was really CONFUSED about my sexuality. Everyday (just about) someone would make reference to, or ask me, if I was gay/straight/bi. I have known my whole life that I was "different," but "different" how is the question my prepubescent self was dealing with. When people are "different," naive people tend to stick a label on them. Consider yourself lucky that you're not labeled "NORMAL." So it really helped me explore my true self. In fact, it opened me up sexually, mentally, physically, and even spiritually. You know who you really are and that is all that really matters. You will come out of this whole experience a stronger person.

signed,
I AM WHO I AM!

p.s.: Alice you rock! I needed you when I was younger.

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Dear Alice,

Your response was filled with helpful things. However, it was also as unfeeling as the kind of people who need to do this to someone. They might very well be vicious and enjoy causing pain. Here's hoping someday they learn how they made this person feel. Though that would demand insight & feelings, of which they are bereft.

Whether that person is indeed homosexual, they are a human being first. And rumors are an attack as much as bodily assault. In some circles, being gay is considered immoral. But in all circles, slander (and libel) IS amoral & unconscionable. Something to be condemned, not rationalized. Certainly not a circling back to the individual, questioning what in 'you has you upset.' It is psychological rape.