Hi Alice!

I would like to post a comment to help that anonymous person who left a message about having difficulties of reaching orgasm with his girlfriend while he had no problems masturbating.

I have been masturbating since I was very young (about 13). The first times I had a sexual encounter with a girl, it was less than perfect and I experienced the same problems. Alice, you're right when you say that the feeling of a vagina is not the same as one's hand and, besides, you feel your own penis when masturbating while your partner doesn't. It is true that you have to communicate and learn to tell your partner how to move and what to do to increase your pleasure.

However, you're forgetting an essential factor in all of this. Sex is not only about feeling; it is also about fantasy. In my case, and possibly in this person's case, this played a very important role. When you're having sex with somebody, you're in front of a living person who you do not necessarily control as you do with your fantasies. It took me quite a while to learn how to be able to have fantasies while making love and, besides, to have fantasies WITH my lover as well. Your reader should not be worried, though... I am very happily married and have three children (which shows that I finally did have these orgasms!!!)

In other words, it takes time and patience. Do not give up -- there's nothing wrong in all of this. It just takes learning. And have fun while learning!