Dear Curious,

It may feel just great to some guys, while others will say they can't feel very much at all. One way to find out for sure is to ask.

The most important feelings here, however, are yours. If the idea and/or reality of tasting, spitting, and/or swallowing ejaculate, or oral sex in general, makes your stomach turn, then how enjoyable can giving oral sex to your partner's point of no return really be for you? Condoms are a reliable option for keeping your partner's semen out of your mouth, not to mention the protection they give against the passing of sexually transmitted infections, such as gonorrhea and herpes. Still keeping your partner's penis on the back burner for a minute, how will a condom -- dry, flavored, or otherwise -- go over with your taste buds? Like a guy's preferences regarding rubberized fellatio, some women and men don't mind the taste of a condom, while others would rather suck on a dirty sponge. If you can get your hands on a condom, the answer to this one is easy: slip that baby over your three middle fingers and do a taste test.

Now back to your concerns about tasting and swallowing semen. Know that giving oral sex and receiving your partner's ejaculate don't have to come as a package deal. For example, a man can pull out prior to climax, or he can notify his partner when he's about to come so that s/he can stand clear. The topic of your question has been covered from a number of different angles in these past GAA! Q&As:

• Taste of semen
• The best ejaculation early-warning system
• Girlfriend won't swallow

Talking about feelings, options, and what one will and won't do sexually -- BEFORE you find yourself doing it -- can cut worries about what you might be asked to do in the heat of the moment. The good news is that if something doesn't feel right to you now, or in the future, you don't have to do it.

Alice

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