I am responding to a letter I read about long distance relationships, The Up side Of a Long Distance Relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together for just over two years and we have been long distance across the country for about a year. I have found that despite some of the disadvantages of long distance, such as not seeing each other for several months and the large phone bills, our relationship has been very successful and if anything, it has gotten better with the time and distance we have had apart. I know that long distances do not work for everyone, but if you put the time and energy into making it work, that is exactly what you will get out and it will benefit everyone involved. I must say along with communication, there also must be a great deal of trust involved and respect. All I am saying is things can work out and not to lose hope because if it is something you both really want and feel in your hearts, the distance is nothing but a minor inconvenience and it does get better.

-Long Distance Lover

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Dear Alice,

I am responding to the writer in regards to her long distance relationship. In the letter, the writer stated she wasn't sure if there was a future for her and her long distance lover. I, myself, am in a long distance relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together just over a year and we live one hour and thirty minutes away from each other. We only see each other on weekends and, yes, it is hard, but I truly believe that this has been a healthy way to start off for us. I can honestly say this is the best relationship I have ever been in! The distance between us has allowed us to build a strong, healthy foundation for our future. We have all the trust and respect in the world for each other. We already have talked about what the future holds for us. So to the writer, I say, if you're having any doubts at all about your relationship, I wouldn't necessarily blame it on the distance. If it's meant for you two to be together, then it will be! Good luck!

-Long distance lover

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Dear Alice,

I have been in a long distance relationship with my gf for 3 yrs, I do meet her once in 6 months, for a week or so, and we always end up having major fights... over things from where to eat to what to do during the day, but then we make up just as hard. I feel that this separation makes the love stronger, though I don't want to be separated, but the last few years have brought out new facets in our relationship. I feel that long distance relationships make communication among partners better. Maybe it's the fact that we were together for 4 years before, but I know what I miss, and it has brought out many good things in both of us.

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Dear Alice,

I have been in a long distance relationship for about 2 1/2 months and it is great! In order to have a sucessful long distance relationship there has to be TRUST! If one of the people in the relationship doesn't trust each other, it isn't going to work. You also have to really LOVE this person if you're going out with someone long distance. I just hope people understand that it's not easy having a long distance relationship, but if you both really want it and if you both work at it, you will be together for as long as you think it will last.