Dear Alice,

I just have something to say about a girl who wrote recently saying that she was beautiful on the outside, but had no boyfriend. I want to tell her that being sexy or having a history of being in beauty pageants won't necessarily win you a boyfriend. Would you really want to have a boyfriend who cared for you only because you were attractive? I am not exactly prom queen or beauty pageant material, but in the past few years (I'm seventeen now), I have learned that being myself and being confident of who I am is the key to winning hearts. Ignore your good looks and focus on presenting your mind to the world and you will do just fine.

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I am in the same situation as this girl - I also have been told I'm very beautiful, that I have a great personality, and that I have a lot to offer but I still don't have a boyfriend. Guys can get intimidated easily by beautiful, tall women and often think that they would never have a chance with her. The important thing is to engage in activities that make you feel happy within and not worry so much about having a boyfriend at the moment. That will come in time and a guy who's worth dating is worth waiting for. If you are dating a guy who you know you are settling for just because you don't want to be lonely then you are not being fair to yourself or the other person. Its better to be single because when the RIGHT guy comes along, you dont want to be attached to the WRONG one. Work on fine-tuning your personality and your qualities so when you finally meet that person who has the courage to pursue you, they will appreciate you more for your inner beauty.

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To the reader:

When I was studying psychology, I learned that men don't always approach beautiful/attractive girls, they tend to go after girls that they rank as their own league. So you'd probably not run into a lot of men confident enough to approach you. I also agree with the others that inner beauty has a lot more to offer than being beautiful on the outside. Beauty fades, but having a great personality usually doesn't. Also grace and elegance, something beyond being beautiful, usually radiates from the inside. I think that wins a lot more hearts than just being superficially/artificially pretty or "sexy".

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Hi beautiful,

Same thing happened to me when I was in highschool. Come to find out many years later that the boys (men now) were too afraid to approach me in fear of rejection. I learned many years later how many boys in school told me how they had mad crushes on me and I never even knew it. Actually 25 years later I am now with one of those highschool crushes and has told me how he has always wanted to be with me... So if I were you, just be yourself and try to start to approach some of these boys even if it is a quick hello in passing... It's a start for them to see your not just beautiful but your nice also!!!