I have a message for Frustrated. Her boyfriend seems to have a ?problem? orgasming. I agree fully with your response that it is no one?s fault. My husband and I have been together and having a sexual relationship for 4 years. We were ?rabbits,? but it still took him 2 months of almost daily intercourse to finally orgasm. We didn?t see it as a problem and I learned to enjoy the extra time to come to ?my conclusion? of each session. In my opinion savor, the time you have with him, and be privately proud that he is no minuteman.

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Dear Alice,

'Frustrated' really shouldn't feel bad at all. I have a lot of trouble climaxing with my girlfriend because I've conditioned myself not to out of fear of pregnancy and other things, but for me, there is a simple way around it. She feels disappointed if I don't finish and it's a simple fact that no one is going to be able to finish myself better than me, so after I'm at the point where I'm as close to climax as I know that I'll probably get, I'll just go ahead and finish myself off. We're both happy in the end even though I might possibly finish the likelihood of it is low, so why not just make both parties happy? Don't feel bad if he has to finish himself off, he's probably accustomed to masturbation and it's still the SAME SENSATION, so he'll be just as happy. You certainly should NOT think that it is your fault and you cannot provide and he should NOT think that it's his fault, either. It is possible that he could condition himself better or he may just have a hard time finishing. I know what it's like to have trouble when you truly care about someone because I absolutely love my girlfriend, but when we are messing around, there are still a MILLION different things flying through my head that distract me.