Dear Kelvin,

A good haircut by a stylist or barber, who can work WITH your hair instead of against it, can make a HUGE dent in hair-don'ts. S/he can also tell you what types of products might give your hair new direction. Or, ask a sister, brother, or cousin about the hair care helpers that work for them -- maybe you could borrow some and experiment. You can also check the drugstore for the various products available for hard to manage hair, including mousses, gels, sprays, frizz-minimizers, and more.

It is your confidence, however, as well as your hair, that Alice wants to respond to. Think about celebrating your uniqueness, rather than comparing your do to all the others bobbing down the block; some require big bucks and hours in front of the mirror to maintain, while others aren't comparable because their hair type is completely different from yours -- including all the wigs and hairpieces.

Ironically, it's possible that when people look at your hair, they are jealous of how full-bodied it is, since theirs may be so thin and lifeless in comparison. Spike hairstyles are also sharp (no pun intended) and offer a great look.

Your hair has personality. The challenge is making it work for you.

Alice

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