What is it that makes you fear your boyfriend will leave you for someone else? You say that "we" haven't written. Is it possible that your boyfriend has similar thoughts since you haven't written to him either?

Your first semester at college can be a busy and hectic time. Your workload increases; and, your social life changes, with new people to meet and new surroundings with which to acquaint yourself. Letter writing can easily become one of those items on your "to-do" list that gets put off until tomorrow. (Maybe both of you can try e-mail instead?)

College is a time of change for many people. With meeting new people, taking classes in subjects you may not have studied before, and being away from home, you may begin to develop new interests and ideas. It is possible that you and your boyfriend will find you don't have a lot in common after a year or two away from each other at different colleges. Or, you might find that you still have a common ground on which you understand and appreciate each other, but the romantic interest has faded.

These are some thoughts to keep in mind when you do see your boyfriend again, maybe over the Thanksgiving, winter, or summer break. Spend time with him. Talk with him about what's on your mind; let him know that his honesty is more important to you than hanging on to a relationship that might not be there anymore.

For now, don't jump to any conclusions without talking with him. Wait and see what happens when you are back together for a few days, and don't close the door to the many new opportunities that your new life has to offer.

Alice

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