Dear Reader,

It's interesting to Alice that many people are seeing oral sex as a method of safer sex. Oral sex, for many, used to seem more intimate than intercourse, something that would happen after intercourse had already occurred in a relationship -- something about breaking another barrier to intimacy. Oral sex, too, has been seen as, and used as, a form of contraception.

The risks of oral sex are answered in the following Alice! questions: Oral Sex -- No Condoms? Contracting HIV from Receiving Oral Sex, and Oral Sex with Canker Sores. People make choices related to safer sex. On the continuum of risk, yes, oral sex seems to be lower; however, it still is a risk. As virgins, does this mean that you have not had intercourse? Oral sex? Any intimate touching? Yes, for virgins, the risk of oral sex is the lowest among any group (also read, Two Virgins -- condoms?, Two virgins -- use condoms?, and Further response to: Two virgins -- use condoms?, in Alice's Sexual Health archives). You may be willing to take that minimal risk.

You could use the experience to practice safer sex with one another; so, when, and if, you do have oral sex, or even intercourse with another person who is not a virgin, you will be well-versed with the techniques, and have a certain amount of confidence and savoir faire.

Alice

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