Dear Alice,
My girlfriend and I are only just beginning our sex lives (we are about two
months old in that respect) and we seem to be enjoying ourselves greatly.
However, I never seem to be able to insert my penis into her vagina on my own (she always has to insert it with her hands). Is this just inexperience? Do you have any tips for us (e.g. position, angle)? It is not the end of the
world that I'm not able to do it myself, but it is quite annoying to fail every time. Thank you.
Yours,
Challenged
Dear Challenged,
The penis is a body part -- a part of you -- and not a steel ramrod, or a machine. If your girlfriend guides your penis into her vagina, how is that a failure? Sounds like success to Alice! Your girlfriend is letting you know where to go, and you do not have to waste any time looking or searching around!
Of course, you can assist her in guiding your penis into her vagina. You can add lube to your penis, and to her inner lips and vaginal opening (and to her clit, for extra pleasure). You can also open her lips, and hold and guide your penis in as well. Your lovemaking can be a partnership, something that brings pleasure and joy to both of you.
Alice keeps thinking of your words, "we seem to be enjoying ourselves greatly." If only everyone could say those words!
- Alice
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A penis, not a ramrod
