Alice finds this ever interesting question difficult to answer because there really is no set answer. To get a sense of what's going on, she could do some snooping around and eavesdrop on people's conversations, but she'll respect their privacy, no matter how tempting it would be to listen in on such juicy talks!

A lot about the manner, content, and amount of sex talk men and women participate in has been influenced by upbringing, conditioned gender roles, media, society, and our various cultures. As a result, sex chat has often been stereotyped, which has led us to believe that discussions about sex among men or among women were truly different. This may not be very scientific, but what Alice knows from experience, and also from her male and female friends, is that the difference is not as large as we might expect. In addition, with the changing attitudes towards women's and men's sexualities, expected gender roles, work, family roles and responsibilities, sexual harassment, and gender equality, the already minor difference is probably becoming increasingly smaller.

Differences in communication styles, use of language, and comprehension of what's being said between men and women may be other significant factors. Related to this, two books to look out for are Deborah Tannen's, You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation, and John Gray's, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, both available at your local library or bookstore.

Alice believes we should be more open to facilitating communication (and preventing miscommunication as well as misunderstanding) between and among genders in order to help promote healthy relationships, and positive attitudes and conversations about sex. How to go about this is another matter altogether. As Linda Richman of Saturday Night Live   used to say during "Coffee Talk," "Talk amongst yourselves. Discuss."

Alice