Here's what we do... I use a silicone based lube on him and curl up next to him and put my lips around his nipple. Softly and slowly stroke his penis, gently, up and down — while gently nursing his nipple. Take your time — don't be in a hurry. It will take time for him to climax — but he will!!! Good luck!!! Don't forget the lube — it's the ticket!!!

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To the reader:

I think the key point to keep in mind is communication. The first time I gave my boyfriend a hand job I had no idea what I was doing. I had the general jist of the motion, but I was also very wary of hurting him.

I started things off one way, and all it took was for him to gently move my hand and make a few recommendations for me to get it right. Since then, knowledge about hot spots (including his personal preferences), has made this a very enjoyable experience for him.

Once you've got the basics down, your focus will shift from the action to the actual experience — take your time and enjoy :)