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Blues and depression
Depressed?
Originally Published: May 12, 1995 ~ Last Updated / Reviewed on: February 01, 2008
 
Dear Alice,

How do I know if I am depressed and need help? For about a year now, I have been easily irritated, angry, I cry when something sad or happy happens, I have lost seven pounds (last year), sometimes I have a hard time sleeping at night. I go over everything I did wrong in a day, and I have a hard time trying to concentrate on reading. I have wanted to mention this to my doctor, but I am very shy about it. He says I am physically healthy. I have tried exercising, and taking warm baths to help me feel better. What is wrong with me?

Signed,
Helpless

 

Dear Helpless,

Your honesty and openness about your situation is impressive, and so is your letter; they're important steps toward feeling better.

Another step is to talk with your health care provider about how you feel — as difficult as this may be. You can be shy and brave at the same time. If you'd rather not bring it up with your provider, you can just call the receptionist and ask for a mental health referral. This request happens far more often than people think. When you're feeling down and shy, it can be hard to be your own advocate. Nevertheless, you've already successfully reached out here, and you can continue on your path of taking good care of yourself.

For more information on the difference between "feeling blue" and depression, have a look at Friend is depressed. If you're a student, how do you feel about making an appointment at your school's counseling department or mental health clinic? At Columbia, you can call x4-2878 to make an appointment with a mental health provider at Counseling and Psychological Services (CPS). S/he can listen to you and work with you to figure out your next steps. If you're not a student, try the following resources for more information and a referral to someone who may be able to help you.

Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance
1.800.826.3632

National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH): Depression
1.866.615.6464

American Psychological Association: Depression
1.800.374.2721

Alice

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