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Questioning sexuality
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Interested in lesbian sex
Originally Published: December 03, 1993
~ Last Updated / Reviewed on: January 12, 2007
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Dear Alice,
We are two straight sophomores who are considering lesbian activity. This is not a joke. We have always been intrigued by lesbians and have been asking the question, "How do they do it?" Obviously, a great deal of the enterprise must involve oral activity, but what else can we do?
Sincerely, Dear Interested in Lesbian Sex, What two women do in bed is as varied as the many women we know. Two women may kiss and hug, caress each other's bodies for hours, or have quick sex. They may kiss, suck, and caress each other's nipples and/or clitorises, touch their vulvas with fingers and tongues, press and rub their bodies and vulvas, masturbate together, or use sex toys. Some women may get pleasure from penetration while others may pass on it. One person, both, or neither may orgasm once or several times. Still other women like looking at erotic pictures, telling and/or reading sexy stories, sharing fantasies, or sleeping together without sex. Often, people mistakenly believe that women know how to please other women because of their similar looking genitals. However, all women are different. Communication is key in all types of relationships, including sexual relationships. Plus, talking about what feels good can be a wonderful way to make your time together more enjoyable. Having sex with a woman for the first time, or at any time, may involve a lot more than what happens between the sheets.For more specific information on the "technical" aspects of sex between two women, you may want to check out the books Lesbian Passion: Loving Ourselves and Each Other and Lesbian Sex, both by Jo Ann Loulan. There are also many gay and lesbian and "adult" bookstores that have a varied assortment of materials pertaining to women who have sex with women. New York City is home to the oldest gay and lesbian bookstore in the world, The Oscar Wilde Book Shop, located at 15 Christopher Street, New York, NY 10014 (212-255-8097) as well as Babeland, located in both SOHO and the Lower East Side.
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