Dear Alice,
I haven't really been able to talk to any girls since my breakup with my ex-wife 6 months ago. We haven't really signed any divorce papers, so I feel very obligated to stay faithful to her even though our relationship as we know it is over and done with. Will I still have this problem even when we actually get divorced? And will I forever feel bad about making the first move to end this relationship? Because for the past three months I could neither sleep or concentrate on my studies. I really do feel like shit. My commitment to her and my love for her was the only thing that helped my to go on with my life. Now that's over I am totally lost.
Please help me with my problem.
Signed, New Life?
Dear New Life?,
From your brief letter, Alice is not really clear about the
circumstances of your break-up with your wife. In any case, separating
from your partner is a very real stress in your life, and the feelings you
are having of being overwhelmed and confused are actually incredibly
normal. Alice would wholeheartedly recommend that you talk to someone
about this grief you're having in more detail, so as to help you get
through the crisis and be able to continue a healthy life. Make an
appointment at Counseling and Psychological Services (CPS) at x4-2468. It
doesn't mean a lifetime of therapy, but simply support during a difficult
time in your life (and help so that you can continue your studies). Good
luck.
- Alice
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